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Fear: The #1 Thing Standing In Your Way Of True Happiness

Imagine this: you are sitting on the beach watching the sunset as waves lap the sand as you bask in the glow. A book lies in your lap as you lose yourself in thought of how wonderful you feel at this moment.

Now imagine what the reality is: You’re dreaming of traveling to the beach, sitting on the sand watching the sun set. But instead of taking the steps to go, you feel fear. What if you’re needed at your job, by your family or any of your other obligations? What if the plane crashes? What if you get lost? What would happen if you let down your guard? What if…?

Living in fear, keeps us form taking the risks and chances to go for what we truly desire. It keeps us from finding true happiness.   “Only when we are no longer afraid do we begin to live.” Dorothy Thompson, American journalist (1893-1961)

Happiness isn’t defined by what you have; where you live; where you go; or the people you love. True happiness is a feeling. It’s something you feel deep inside about yourself and believe yourself to be. But to find it you have to face the fears keeping you paralyzed.

When we have fears, we feel unsafe. Facing our fears and getting out of our comfort zone is hard because of how humans naturally expect the worst-case scenario. Our brains naturally send us negative information because it is trying to keep you safe.

So how can you live a life free of fear and be truly happy?

Everyone has fears. It’s normal. It’s how we react to them that makes the difference in how we feel. But you might find yourself weighed down with too much fear that’s preventing you from being truly happy. If that’s the case, it’s time to get familiar with your fears and find ways to work through them.

Here are 4 common fears that rise up in business and personal life.  Here are ideas to help you deal with them.  There is so much more I could elaborate on with this one, but you get the idea and if you find any or these fears holding you back, we can talk.

  1. Fear of failure. This is a common fear, often stemming from our childhood. Fear of failing a test, for example. This fear brings on the feeling of being judged or embarrassed. In reality, failing is part of success. Overcome this fear by not worrying about the outcome and only focusing on the process of getting to success. 
  • Fear of success. This fear stems from many different fears: fear of change, responsibilities, attention, vulnerable and many others. The best way to overcome this fear is to focus on one step at a time while moving forward.
  • Fear of rejection. The fear of being rejected is a reaction to our innate need for belonging. It can include fears of being judged, not being liked, or being alone. To overcome this fear put yourself out there, reminding yourself that the right people will respond to you favorably.
  • Fear of not being good enough. This fear is rooted in how we feel about ourselves. Our low self-esteem keeps us from not trying because of a lack of confidence. You can overcome this fear by starting small with things you know you can accomplish. Keep doing more steps to build your self-confidence.

ACTION STEP:

We all have fears of some kind. They may seem rational to us but appear irrational to others. To overcome your fears you need to understand why you have them and then work on facing them so you can live a life of true happiness.

Some fears can be overcome by becoming more confident in yourself.

How do you do that?  One way I overcame my fear of not being good enough was to leave reminders (post it notes mostly), that said YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH!  When you see that constant reminder around your office, home, car you cannot help but start to feel that way.  Take a stack of post it notes now and write on every one of them YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH and leave them everywhere.  Not only will you be constantly reminded, so will those that see them… they are a generic reminder that WE ARE GOOD ENOUGH.


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4 thoughts on “Fear: The #1 Thing Standing In Your Way Of True Happiness

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      good article!
      You picked the best fears to write about and the steps to overcome are simple and attainable
      we all want to be and to feel accepted I know I do and I will be working on overoming some of these one step at a time. I also know that I have overcome so much in my life already but still have a ways to go, I am a work in progress and I am worth it!
      it helps to say good positive things like this to myself and write them, cause I know that it feels good to see them. It may help everyone to write and say things like this to ourselves daily. Thanks for the article

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      Fear is a big deterrent, and a big motivator. Something I definitely struggle with

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      Well the 4 common fears – I believe I have had all of them at one time or another in my life. Talking in the mirror helps me. I say ” you are loved”, you are worthy, you are good enough. I do like the stick it notes though as it will be a good reminder for when you are feeling down or whatever is going on. I know my partners biggest fear right now is don’t spend money we don’t know how long this pandemic will last or just spend on what we need.

      Great article and thanks for the sticky not idea. I will be putting you are good enough and a few others.

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      I will have to try the sticky notes method to start believing in myself more.

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